Body Language: How To Send The Right Signals

You may not know it, but you put meaning to what you are saying through your actions. Almost every aspect of your personality is made known through your looks, demeanor, facial expressions, gestures, posture and body language.

Body language is an important part of communication. To enhance the effectiveness of verbal communication, you need to work not just on your appearance but also on body language, which constitutes 50% or more of what you are trying to convey. And because body language makes up a huge chunk of your overall message, it is important to understand just how you can use it to send to your advantage.

A lot of people are unaware of how they project themselves to other people because generally, people can subconsciously identify body language signals. By understanding how you can use body language to send the right signals, you can be able to able to turn things your ways and leave a lasting and positive impression towards people. Here are some ways.

Make eye contact. Maintain direct eye contact when speaking to someone and vice-versa. This shows that you know and are sincere with what you are saying and that you are interested in what the other person has to say as well. Looking somewhere else can only create an impression that you are not interested or are not focused on the conversation. However, avoid staring at the person so as not to intimidate him/her off.

Observe proper posture. Avoid slouching. This only makes you look shorter and creates an image of you having low esteem. Stand comfortably, with your back straight, weight centered and feet slightly apart.

Smile. Believe it or not, but smiling is actually a very powerful kind of body language. Pouting can only pass negative judgment on other people. However, your smile should be a way to let other people know that you are easy to approach and talk to and not make people think that you are looking for approval. You do not have to smile too often, you only have to do it appropriately.

Use appropriate gestures. You can use your hands to emphasize your words or ideas. Small gestures can also work when talking up close as well. When someone is talking, nod to show that you are following. Careful not to overdo your gestures or appear too nervous with them, as this can be annoying.

Create and observe personal space. Create your own personal space. Especially in close-up conversations, let other people know that you have your own personal space and draw the line just there. Much as you do not want other people to invade your space, you also need yo observe their own as well.

For instance, if you are in a job interview, it is important that you send the right signals as first impressions usually mean big. Always appear interested and attentive in the conversation, but you should never overdo it as it may create an impression that you are only faking.

Awareness of one's own body language is important so you can communicate and respond to others effectively. Knowing how you can and cannot use body language can help filter out biases as well as understand what other people's body language signals mean and say about them.

But perhaps the most significant thing you should keep in mind is that body language signals are far greater than the impact of verbal communication. And if your words go hand in hand with body language well together, people are more likely to be convinced with what you are trying to say. More often, people can tell whether you mean what you say with your body language.

Remember that actions can say more than words.

How To Treat A Woman On A Date

Do not let more than 1 day go by without contacting her. These 3-day-wait rules? Games. I'm not in the market for games. You want to play games, drop by the arcade where you can fly solo, cos no woman wants a game player. That said, you don't have to call and chat her up for an hour every day. A text message would be sufficient – "We're all booked for Friday" – would be fine. Just let her know you haven't forgotten about her or your date.

Be on time. You need to be on time. We are genetically programmed to view you (subconsciously) as the leader and provider, and if you're late, this is a sign of incompatibility. I can hear the femnazis stomping their feet over that one. Too bad, sisters! Your woman, on the other hand, might well be late – that's just something you're going to have to deal with. Yes, I realize it's a double standard, but don't get bent. The real reason your date is running late is because she's taking extra time to get sexy under her clothes, in case the magic happens later. So the next time you get ticked off over a late date, just think of how smooth and silky she probably is beneath that skirt.

Open her car door. No, you don't need to unlock her door these days, not since the invention of the fob. But this will get you extra brownie points for sure.

Help her put her coat on. This is very flattering and I've never heard of a woman not finding it so. Just don't make a big production of it. Be subtle – some women don't like drawing attention to themselves, and this is such a rare occurrence anymore that some people do stare when they see it.

Open the door for her. Depending on what country you are in, the rules on this vary. Personally, I like a mix of what I've encountered in Europe and the US:

When entering an establishment , a man should hold a door open and walk through it at the same time – or just slightly ahead of the woman. That might sound difficult, but it's not, if you're standing close. The cultural basis of it (here in Europe) is so the man can lead the way through a crowded environment and let everyone know the woman is not available. This keeps jerks away, and keeps people from leering when she enters.

When leaving an establishment – A man should hold the door and let her walk through first, unless, as before, that means entering into a crowd.

When entering his home - A man should hold the door and let her enter first.

Pull her chair out for her in the restaurant. She might not be used to this – some women will not expect it and will beat you to it. If this happens, don't worry. You should still show good manners, however, and wait for her to sit down before you seat yourself.

Order for her. Please note – this does not mean tell her what she's going to have for dinner. Have a conversation about what she wants and then when the waiter comes, order for her. When you're finished ordering, ask her if that's everything she wanted. This gives her a chance to correct you if you've made a mistake. You don't want her eating something she doesn't like just because she's too polite to interject.

At the end of your date, don't drive off until she's safely inside. I've only had one man not do this. That was 10 years ago and I still think poorly of him. Normal people wait to see their girlfriend or friend gets home alright. I do this for my female friends, too. Anyone who doesn't do this is socially inept! Now, this isn't a proper dating etiquette list, there are other things you should be aware of, but these are the basics. Sound old-fashioned? That's because you've been desensitized, son. The only women who aren't going to like being treated this way, are women you don't want to be around anyway. You don't have to follow this advice, but if you do these things it will set you apart from the rest – it tells your woman she's dealing with a man and not a boy.

How to Deal with an Egoist

You can ignore, avoid or totally cut him off from your life. Why hang around someone who's a show off and selfish?


You can try to interrupt his patterns of speech and behavior. But before you do that, make sure you are skilled enough or you are going to get annoyed.


If you are in a position where you can't get away from an egoistic person, just observe him. While you do that have fun and try to figure out what it is that is going on inside his head. Predict his next move. You will have lots of fun doing this and will learn more about him than he does.


The best thing you can do for yourself is not to allow this type of people to make you angry and affect your life. Take control of your own thoughts, emotions, behavior and attitudes.